Thursday 12 April 2012

Open Your Eyes

Sorry it has been a while since writing to you all, I have not forgotten about you at all, I have just been really busy with University work as I am almost at the end of my first year so assessments are looming.  First of all how are you all, the site has become a lot busier which I am bitter-sweet about, obviously I love the fact that people are reading my writings and hopefully feeling better, but I wish it was under better circumstances that you were all reading this.  


Today's post, I wanted to write about a documentary I saw on BBC 3 called "I Never Said Yes" it is part of the BBC crime season, it really opened my eyes further about the amount of rape that goes on within the U.K. alone, did you know that a woman within the U.K. is raped every 10 minutes, so at the end of an episode of Eastenders or Corrie thats 3 more women that have gone through this atrocity, what is even more disturbing is that only 1 in 4 rape cases actually get to the trial stage, so even if you go through all the examinations and procedures you may never get your day in court to send down the man that ruined your life.  The documentary spoke to not only women who had been raped but a group of men to find out what men really think about rape.  They agreed that it was wrong to blame the victim, but because sex is so relaxed nowadays in magazines, adverts, T.V. shows it can be hard to know what signals a girl is giving off.  One of the men said that it was important not to see as a one time thing but as something that would change someone's life forever, I believe if this message was got a cross a lot more then maybe we could see a decline in the numbers.  People see it as right you were raped 3 years ago how is it still affecting you, this is almost as bad as the victim blaming that happens.  An interesting point brought up in the documentary was that it is normally for power or control rather than sexual needs/fantasies which was interesting.  We supposedly live in a society where men and women are equal, but still men feel the need to gain power over us by taking the one thing that a women can give. 
The Documentary also pointed out that maybe enough isn't being done to support the victims during the trial process, although more charities and support groups are popping up all over the country it is still not enough.  


Sorry to all those that are not in the U.K. I don't know of a way to show you the documentary, but I will post a link for those within the U.K.  We need to come together as a nation and internationally to put a stop to this. 


I am always here if any one needs to talk.


So let me know what you think 


Love and support to you all
Society Slut
xx


Link - http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/b01f6sgk/I_Never_Said_Yes/